Choice Post

Welcome back to another week of Marriage & Familia In Tact! (Yes, I purposely wrote familia)

This week I decided to do my choice post on an article  I read that I actually REALLY REALLY liked. The author began talking about how when he went away to college he thanked his parents for everything they had done for him in his 18 years. He realized how much his parents had given him and took the opportunity every now and again to tell them he loved them. He then goes on to talk about how many teens today don't follow the 5th Commandment. All you Catholics out there should know which one that is! Am I right? *spoiler: "Honor your father and mother* The author goes to speak to young adults about the importance of honoring, respecting, and thanking our parents. He then says how when his father died, he knew he had expressed his love for his dad while he was alive, but wondered if his dad ever really knew how much. He then wrote a long tribute for his mother and tell her now how much he appreciated and loved her. He encourages his readers to do the same for their parents.

I think this article says a lot about the relationship of a child and their parent(s). I think it's extremely important to let our parents know how we feel about them, how we thank them for all they have done for us. All the sacrifices and struggles, they did it for us. That is truly one of the greatest loves of all in my eyes. I think we need to reevaluate ourselves before we let a stupid comment slip when we talk to our parents. Yes, they make tick us off, but that is definitely no reason to disrespect them. Been there, regretted that. 

As I'm getting older I'm realizing how important family is, how they become one of your only life lines and you'll depend on them much more as you get older, but you also have to separate yourself from them to find your own independence. Having a perfect balance of both, interdependence, will allow us for a a successful relationship with our parents. 

I think before the end of my senior year, I will also write a tribute to my parents. They deserve it.

Choice Post

So for the choice post, a video about the benefits of families helping their kids do better in school. Families are proven to help boost their child's performance in school, which makes sense when you really think about it. You grow up with parents that have helped you and encouraged you to get your homework done. Parents help in the progress of their children's development. 

Without the encouragement or input from your parents, why would you even care about school? Why would you feel the need to do homework or study if it didn't matter, or if you didn't have that one parent telling you constantly to get your homework done before you watch tv. It's extremely important for our parents to be involved in our school lives because they care about our education and want us to have something better than they had. Sure, we may never need calculus or need to know what the chemicals in our bodies are, but our parents do want us to learn. They want us to understand what it means to learn a topic, sturggle with it, and then excel. Our parents are just the driving force to help us and tell us "you can do it!" when we are at our lowest points. *cough SENIORITIS cough *


I guess all the nagging from your mom or dad saying "Did you do your homework yet?" or "Finish your homework" was just for our own good. Our parents DO care and want us to succeed. 

Article Post

In this article it talks about how less American teens are living at home with biological parents that are still married to each other .The importance of a strong family foundation provides their children with information on how to build stronger families in the future that sometimes step-parents don't provide. Less than half percent of 17 years old live with their biological married parents. It affects not only the relationships between the parents but with their children as well and ultimately with the entire family structure. Couples who remained together were mostly Asian, then Whites, Hispanics, and then multi-racial couples. 


I think it is rather shocking how less teens are living with their biological parents who aren't married to each other. I think that parents who don't stick together often give a certain view to their children that marriages don't work. 

Taking media into account on Keeping Up with the Kardashians, Kourtney (the sister who has 2 children and is not married) said she didn't want to get married because she saw her parent's relationship fail. She fears that her kids will suffer what she did. 
I agree that it definitely could affect children's lives to see their parents not keep a strong relationship and make them feel like love can't be achieved or successful. 

LOVE IS POSSIBLE PEOPLE! DON'T GIVE UP ON LOVE! 

Choice

For this choice post I decided to base it off of this article  that talks more about marriages. It says that married couples that attend church together tend to be happier. Those who spend more time together before their child is born also grow closer with each other during the pregnancy. It also says that marriages where each person comes from intact families tend to have a strong and more enduring marriage. Marriages in which the individuals moved in together before getting married also reported a greater likelihood of divorce. These reports on all aspects of dating into married life are very specific, but could also turn out to be wrong in some situations. 

I do agree with the thought that couples attending church together may strengthen their connection because they both set their focus on their God and may feel at peace during Church. (On Married to Jonas, Kevin and Dani were seen attending church together and how she felt at peace being at church with him). I also think that when someone's parents are together, the person looks up to their parent's marriage and uses it as an example of how they will behave in their own marriage. Monkey see monkey do. I agree with these two points because I feel that a relationship can be strengthened through faith and be successful when the couple has seen another successful marriage all their life. Though that's not to say someone whose parents are divorced can't have a success marriage.

Marriage is such a crazy and wild adventure, you can only hope that you and your spouse try and see eye to eye in your morals and values. It's only when a couple can really work together can they make their marriage thrive.